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Some Things People Have Taught Me
Houston County Courier - August 2008
I just returned my license to practice to the State Board of Examiners of Psychologists after 40 years.
I want to share with some things others have taught me during that time.
Worrying is a waste of energy, much like a car spinning its wheels in the mud, it just uses lots of gas but goes no where.
I have never "healed" anyone, only helped some folks get "unstuck" so they can move on.
Stay focused on the present, not the past or the future.
Assume responsibility for one's thoughts, feelings and behavior. Resentment destroys a person and his/her relationships.
Forgiving self and others is the basis for spiritual maturity, good mental health and healthy relationships.
Giving is more important than taking.
I like the 80-20 rule. If life and others give me 80 percent of what I want/need, that is great.
Accept everyone where he/she is, not where I want him/her to be.
Focus on strengths and not weaknesses.
A successful relationship, including marriage, is the result of maintaining a healthy balance between you, me, and we.
It is not possible to change another person.
Communication is not agreement.
It is better to start a sentence with "I" rather than “you."
And last but not least, you can never be wrong starting a sentence with “I think," “I need," or "I feel."
Joe Garms, PhD