Even as a kid, I loved to sit and listen to my grandparents, parents, and other elders talk about the old days. I still enjoy talking about the old days and listening to the stories.
I think it’s important for one to know where they come from and know the struggles of the past. The stories were endless and mostly fun to listen to as we sat around the supper table eating or lounging in the living room.
The stories brought their memories to life. My dad was a son of sharecroppers growing up in the Midwest. His parents grew up during the Depression era, and my mother was an Airforce brat who traveled the country from base to base with her family.
One of the stories I recall from my dad’s mother was she grew up in Northeast Arkansas picking cotton. My grandmother reminisced about only having two dresses — one for wintertime and one for summer. She had one pair of shoes she wore in the winter or until they no longer fit. In the summertime, she and her siblings went shoeless. Poor people, but happy.
The stories took us back to much simpler times. Boy, do I miss talking to her and holding her hand.
Stories from our elders offer invaluable, firsthand accounts of history, resilience, and wisdom, preserving experiences of love, adventure, and tragedy from generations like those that lived through major 20th century events. Without knowing one’s history, it makes one more likely to repeat mistakes of others from the past. Some mistakes we make do not allow for “do overs.”
I recall as a newly appointed Texas Ranger sitting across the desk from my Ranger Captain, who tells me, “Steven, God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason.” Just a reminder to listen and talk only when necessary. The Rangers have a colorful history and are steeped in traditions, and being quick to speak may embarrass myself and the Rangers.
Take some time to visit with your elders. Reminiscing together builds stronger social connections and enjoying social connections is vital to our health. Celebrating the contributions of our elders means valuing their perspective, respecting their journey, and recognizing the lasting impact they have on our lives.
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Steven Jeter is Chief of Police in Trinity.
