In Texas, a handshake is a common, friendly greeting that reflects our warm, hospitable culture. It’s typically done when meeting someone new, and old friend, saying goodbye, offering congratulations, or expressing gratitude.
When shaking a female’s hand, many of us still remove our hat or tip our hat as a sign of respect and typically follow up the handshake with a “sir” or “ma’am,” depending on who I am talking to.
In some parts of America, this has become an obsolete gesture. They don’t want to talk to you, shake your hand, or allow you to be friendly (open a door for them).
I know growing up as a boy, the older generation of men, often judged you by your handshake. A limp or weak handshake was typically not well received, and they told you about it. In past generations a handshake was your word, your bond. Your handshake carried weight and was more than just a friendly gesture. Even today, I rarely remain seated if one walks up to me to shake my hand. I stand up and allow them to greet me as I greet them back.
I rarely wear a hat (cowboy hat or ball cap in the house or indoors). I was taught to remove my hat while inside. I know this is old school and is rarely adhered to today, other than maybe a cowboy or a person still with old school upbringings. It’s hard for me to see males wear a hat in the church house. This was a “no, no” growing up. I understand times have changed.
A handshake is a simple, respectful way to acknowledge another person, showing openness and goodwill. In small-town or close-knit communities, a handshake can also be part of building trust. In some Texas towns, informal “handshake deals” still carry weight alongside contracts, reflecting a reputation-based business culture. In many cultures, the handshake conveys mutual respect, balance, and equality between people.
So, what is the proper way to shake hands? A quick, firm grip is usually enough (don’t smash their hand). Maintain eye contact. This reinforces sincerity and respect. Don’t forget to respect their personal space. All of us have had an encounter with the “close talker” and the one who is up in your space. An arm’s length is usually a comfortable distance.
In short, a handshake is both a social courtesy and a cultural touchstone. A small gesture that can mean “I respect you” and “I’m friendly” in a single motion.
Vaya con Dios, my friends.
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Steven Jeter is Chief of Police in Trinity.
